Why Being Yourself Isn't As Easy As it Sounds

They're right when they say you have to "be yourself" if you want to be happy in the dating game. The problem is that most men have such a twisted idea of "being yourself" that it hurts their relationships with women. As a result, they resort to cheap pick-up lines and gifts to cover up for their insecurities. Sad!

What these men don't realize is that there's more to being yourself than simply, well, being yourself. Here are a few tips you might want to remember if you want your relationships with women to improve.

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#1 - A personality is something you develop, not born with.

When we were born, we were little more than animals. But little by little we learned to walk, talk, and dress ourselves. Later on we went to school and learned to read, write, and count. In high school we learned more things and honed our collective skills. Our personalities also industrialized over time, and are primarily influenced by the people we hang out with, like friends and family.

Some people naturally have the bad luck of holding lousy company, or studying from bad friends. If you grew up this way, then "being yourself" is probably the worst thing you can do in the dating game. On the other hand, if you grew up with other boys who were naturally good with women, you may have picked up inescapable absorbing personality traits.

#2 - Being yourself isn't a right -- it's a privilege.

It takes a lot of studying and institution to effectively "be yourself" in a way that women like. For instance, if you try to make women like you by buying them gifts and doing them favors, you're hardly being yourself -- you're just trying to be person people will like. See the difference?

You'll need to tweak your personality in a way that women naturally like. Which brings us to the third tip:

#3 - In the dating game, having a good personality isn't enough.

Let's define a "good" personality as that of the "perfect gentleman" -- he holds doors and pulls out chairs, says "please" and "thank you," and never says anyone that may remotely offend his date. Having a good personality is okay, but it'll only get you so far in the dating game. Why? naturally because it's boring! You'll be lucky if she ever meets you for a second date at all.

Remember that women today would much rather go for personalities that are funny, independent, and confident. In other words, these are the "wild card" personalities who aren't afraid to bend the rules a little to make the date a little fun.

If you can tweak your personality over time to be that kind of "wild card," then by all means -- Be Yourself!

Why Being Yourself Isn't As Easy As it Sounds